As leaders, asking for help by delegating to our team is one of the most powerful ways we can can convey our trust, and cultivate an environment of nonjudgment.
I can ask for what I need, and you can ask for what you need. We can talk about how we feel without judgment. — Brené Brown*
For me, practicing nonjudgment, starts with how I judge myself. As a business leader, I try to hold myself to a high standard of performance, so that I can adequately lead my team.
For many of you entrepreneurs reading this, you know the struggle is real. Not only in the juggling of the challenges of being an entrepreneur, but also balancing that with our obligations to take care of ourselves, our families, and our important duties that we have in the community.
When I start with self judgment, I explore the question: “what standard am I actually holding myself to?” If the standard I am holding myself to is perfection, this will put me in a trap every time. Because, of course, perfection is impossible.
Perfect people also don’t ask for help, which means they are not vulnerable. When we lead by asking for help, and thoughtfully delegating to our team, we are communicating nonjudgment. Meaning, we are not judging ourselves, for not doing everything right perfectly and all of the time. And, we are also communicating that message to our team as to the same.
This is hard, and especially in a professional environment, where excellence is often the standard by which we are trained that we must live up to. In the culture of law, and other professional certifications, this is especially pervasive.
What is a possible solution? Consider asking your team to perform at a 90%, or 95% success level, instead of 100%.
This is daily practice and work for me, so I come to this particular post today with a lot of humility. I am still learning what this looks like for myself and my team.
How does this practice impact profitability? The key answer is, the irony of nonjudgment, is it leads to less mistakes, instead of more.
When we give our team the leeway to make small mistakes along the way, it helps them learn and improve the likelihood of avoiding the bigger mistakes later. And, our clients feel this too, hopefully giving them permission to share with us more deeply and ask for help more fully.
Finally, for a small take away that you can do today, I welcome you to join me and using Brené Brown‘s perfect example of this: when you feel the smugness of judgment welling up, inside yourself, ask yourself: “what is this insecurity about?” I promise you, that you will learn a lot about non judgment from this daily practice.
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*NOTE: Our theme for 2020 is “Where the Rubber Meets the Road,” and includes the Elements of Trust, outlined in the book, Dare to Lead, by Brené Brown. They are: Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Vault, Integrity, Nonjudgment, and Generosity, aka “BRAVING.” All quotes, unless stated otherwise, are to this book.